My Natural Hair Story: The BC

If you know me in real life or follow me on Twitter, you that I love and am extremely proud of my natural hair. However many people may not know of the story behind my decision to go natural and the obstacles that I have faced while on this now six year journey. After seeing and answering some of the questions on the natural hair chat on Twitter, I've decided to write a post about my natural hair journey. This is part one of my natural hair story. Enjoy.

After my sophomore year of high school I was blessed enough to be accepted into the best boarding school in Indiana, IASMH, and I was extremely excited for the prospect of expanding my academic horizons. What I was not prepared for however was the lack of qualified hairstylists in the area. I remember visiting a salon when I first arrived and being told to wait for the black hairstylist. Well she came out from the back of the sale and she.had.a.curl. Yep a juicy, Eric LaSalle in Coming to America curl. I turned on my heels and walked out. Thus started my natural hair journey. Anticlimactic isn't it?

See I was never the girl to really care about my hair. Sure I endured the Saturday presses with the Satin Creme grease. I had the ribbons and bows but I still didn't care. Being the baby of four brothers and having a male best friend, I didn't have time to care about my hair. If it was out of my face I was good. The only reason I got a perm is so that I wouldn't have to get my hair pressed every weekend and therefore it could spend more time in a ponytail. Even as I matured into a teenager my hair was never a big deal. It was straight and out of face and I was okay. There was no huge epiphany to go natural, it seemed to be a quite logical decision considering my options.


I decided to go with the wash and go method until I graduated from high school. With having the entire summer off to relax, I began perusing the Internet. I saw so many ladies sporting the fresh short natural and thought hmm maybe. Maybe turned into okay and then okay turned into definitely. I called the barber my brothers used and made an appointment. When I sat in his chair he told he was going to have to cut a lot of the permed hair out and I thought cool I'm due for a trim. Even with his forewarning and seeing pictures of other BCs, I cried when he finished. I didn't realize that I placed value on flowing hair. I was one girl who didn't care about my hair so why I so emotional now? He let me cry and then told me look in the mirror again. Even in the midst of my sniffles I noticed that I was fierce. My new shone curls laid ever so softly around my head. My head felt lighter. My eyes seemed blacker. My cheeks were even more prominent. I felt like it would be okay I could do this. I walked out of the barbershop with a slightly new perspective.


What are your natural hair stories? Share.If you've did the big chop why and what did you feel? Please share your stories. I would love to hear them. Don't worry this isn't the end...tune in to the next post you'll die laughing trust ;-).


Ladycakes

No Drunken Resolutions

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!! I am so blessed to make into the New Year and I hope you feel the same. I partied with friends and family and enjoyed some wonderful Riesling wine. We talked out resolutions and goals for the new decade and I decided that I wasn't making either one. If that's your cup of tea then more power to you but I've decided that I wasn't going to make resolution that I really don't have any intentions on keeping.

What I am going to do then? Well I'm glad you asked. Nothing. Yep, nothing. I have tried in the past to make this grand resolutions to lose weight in six months or completely stop cursing and I found that it hasn't worked out for me. Instead of making a list and checking from month to month to see what I can cross out, I'm just going to live life. Waiting on one day to focus on bad habits isn't enough and most definitely isn't enough time to change them. Life can be a better indicator of what I need to change and what I need to keep the same. That's what I intend on doing for the New Year.

I Wish you all the best for the new decade.

Ladycakes